Among the wedding speeches, the father of the bride discourse is one of the most important orations – maybe because, in some cultures, the bride’s father (as a host) is the first one to give a speech at his daughter’s wedding. Unfortunately, there is a mistake that the great majority of the speakers make while preparing their toast: they focus only on the content of their orations, neglecting (sometimes completely) the way in which they will present that content to their audience. This is happening because they don’t know that the secret ingredient of a great toast – secret that ensures the success of any oration (including the father of the bride speeches) – is an excellent presentation.
The truth is that a perfect presentation often compensates a poor content (and even transforms it into an interesting speech), while a poor presentation almost always transforms a great content into a boring and unpleasant toast. The way you deliver the content to your public is like a “cover” to the content, and the people tend to “judge a book by its cover”. Moreover, we all know that “attitude is everything” – even when it comes to wedding toasts. However, the speaker must ensure a high quality both to the content and to the way of delivering it. Hoping that I managed to convince you that preparing the way of presenting the father of the bride speech is an essential task of every speaker, I reveal you now the three most important tips for an excellent presentation.
Wedding Speeches – Father of the Bride
First of all, while delivering the speech, you must interact with your audience. There are mainly five ways to do that: avoid speaking like telling a lesson at school – by utilizing a familiar tone (the one that you use when you chat with some old friends of yours), address directly to your public (by using the word “you”), ask the audience questions (e.g. “…, don’t you think?”, tag questions), look at the guests in the eyes (be careful not to fix them) and include the audience in your father of bride speech (by using expressions like: “…as you may have noticed…”, “…you all know what it feels like…”).
While preparing the wedding speech, you should keep in mind that there are two important persons with whom you must interact during your oration: the bride (your daughter) and the groom (your son-in-law). You should address them directly, giving them tips for a happy marriage and wishing them a happy life together. Don’t forget to welcome the groom in your family. Here’s what is achieved if the guests are involved in the father of the bride speeches: the oration becomes engaging and informal, keep your public focused on your toast, make the guests feel important and create yourself the image of a special man (confident, positive and happy).
In addition to interacting with the audience, the practicing of the speech is the second powerful technique used by the successful public speakers in order to deliver a great oration. So, the bride’s father must repeat his speech at least 7 times before the wedding reception. The three great things that you achieve by practicing the father of the bride toast are these: you get rid of the emotions caused by the speaking in front of a large audience (for achieving this, it’s useful to imagine – while repeating – that you are giving the real toast and the guests are looking at you and listening to your oration), you memorize easier the content of the toast (you should have its main ideas written on a few cards that you will keep discreetly in your hand) and you adjust it to fit in the recommended time (the optimum duration is 3 minutes).
The third tip for a perfect presentation of the wedding speeches for father of the bride is that – while preparing, repeating and delivering the toast – you must remember the image of yourself that you create in your guests’ minds. It’s important that you leave to your audience the impression of a respectable, happy, positive, elegant, serious and sincere person. In order to create this image, you must use the right words and behavior – which can be determined by answering to these important questions: “How should I behave during the speech so that the image I create is one of a respectable, elegant, serious, positive and sincere man?”, “Is this word/gesture/action/joke consistent with my ideal image?”.